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Star1
Posts: 299
Joined: Sep 2008
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Friday July 16, 2010 1:41 PM
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Back in April David got really sick and spent most of the next 8 weeks in the hospital. He had bouts of panreatitis, gallbladder attacks, kidney infections and an infected bowel. He had constant bloody diarreah from the bowel infection, so much so that he was anemic and it took 2 kinds of IV antibiotics to knock it out of him. He just recently was released by the medicare nurses because his 60 days were up. 3 Days ago his beloved stepmom died and now he is terribly sick again!
I called the ambulance yesterday.......his blood pressure was through the roof, he had diarreah, fever, and a sharp pain in his side, like when he had pancreatitis. The stupid hospital said they didn't find anything wrong with him and told me to take him home! He was so weak that they actually had to have an orderly pick him up and put him into my car because I couldn't move him. When I got home I couldn't get him out of my car. A man pulled in right behind me [to sell me something] and the sweetheart helped get David into his wheelchair. The stranger and my son's friend, Brian, carried David out of the car and into his chair.
Last night at 1:30 my son and his friend had to carry David to the toilet. It was horrendous. I'll spare you the details, but, let's just say he has bad diarreah. You get the picture.
This morning I called the doctor and they told me to call the ambulance again and get him to the hospital. He has had nothing to eat or drink since Weds. It is hot here and he is going to be dehydrated. I haven't called the ambulance yet because David asked me to leave him alone and just let him die! I won't do that of course, but, for right now I am just letting him sleep a little before I call 911.
I hate this.......I hate that we are always is crisis mode. I'm sorry my son has to see his father this way. I'm sick of the constant waiting and watching to see if he is going to get worse or better. After 16 years I am just tired of it all, the doctor-hospital-nurse-home health aid-medicine-meters-wheelchair ramps-appointments, etc., etc., etc. I am so weary of this life. It never seems to end, it just goes on and on and all of us are miserable.
I know none of you can do anything, it just helps to know that you are out there listening. Pam.
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rzxq2y
Posts: 1603
Joined: Jun 2009
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Friday July 23, 2010 6:38 PM
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Hi, Pam,
We live in the city, in a small house wuth no much lawn and a driveway. I like to mow the lawn and clear the snow, very healthy and therapeutic to me. In the winter time, I hand shovel the snow and only use my snow thrower when we need to go somewhere in a hurry. I also have a small garden that I kept since we moved in 30 some years ago. But indeed there are people give me all kinds of advice with good intention. Some suggest that I should hire people to mow the lawn and removed the snow. Since we are older, some even suggest that we should sell our house and move into an assisted living facility or senior apartment. When I tried to explain to then, they will say that it is our life. But next time, we will go through the same again.
I sort of understand where you come from and I admire your ability to manage a farm. As Marina said, you are amazing.
Best Regards,
Min-Shih
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